Why Kids Whine
10/18/2013 13:53 ● Published by Rick McGarry
While she’s a modern-day princess, Princess Ivana comes from modest means andmet her Italian Prince Charming (if you’re curious, he’s Adriano Pignatelli Aragona Cortes, Prince of the Holy Roman Empire) while on scholarship at Pepperdine. She didn’t wait for his kiss to save her, though. Using her master’s degree in education, she forged a career of her own as a digital strategy consultant.Ivana and her husband have two fabulous kids (ages four and two) who are the latest additions to a 1,000-year lineage that includes kings of Sicily and Spain, Catherine of Aragon, a pope, and a saint. Ivana is wild about kids and motherhood. For the past twenty years, she has worked with children, from designing learning toys to tutoring homeless kids.Here are some of her consulting strategies for dealing with whining.
Help them find the right words.
Gently guide your little one through the whining storm with phrases like: “Are you mad because…?” As your kids learn how to communicate, you’ll find that whining is less likely to be their communication method, because finding the words to describe how they’re feeling becomes easier.
Believe it or not, children hear 400 commands a day! (If you’re a parent, however, this statistic probably isn’t that difficult to believe.) And the truth is, youngsters get just as tired of hearing commands as you do of giving them. Especially toward the end of the day, it’s not surprising that a “Do this; don’t do that” direction triggers frustrated, rebellious whining.
In a moment of calm (not in the midst of Whine-Fest 2013, when the odds of a reasonable discussion happening are similar to your odds of winning the lottery), talk with your child about the joys of listening to what others ask you to do.
If these tips don't work, consider investing in a pair of noise-cancelling headphones.
Ivana’s Super Mom juggling act between life, love, kids, and career inspired her new book. She believes that life is more about attitude than money, and her goal is to help mothers live well on any budget. Consider her “Dear Abby” with a tiara and a baby sling! She blogs with her mom and sister at Princess Ivana—The Modern Princess, a blend of humor, practical advice, and lifestyle tips on the essentials. She is also a featured blogger on Modern Mom.
For more information, please visit www.princessivana.com.
A Simple Guide to Pregnancy & Baby’s First Year (Don’t Sweat It Media, Inc., April 2013, ISBN: 978-0-9888712-0-5, $15.95, www.princessivana.com)
Princess Ivana offers more tips about whining in the November issue.
Princess Ivana talks about whining on her vlog.